How Do I Actually Let that Shit Go?

Letting go is NOT not-giving-a-shit. It’s letting go of a perceived outcome. It’s releasing yourself and your expectations. Letting go of an ideal, which results in an understanding of the impermanence of every single thing in this lifetime. 

But, I totally get that, it's much easier said than done. I mean I have kids, and for the  most part I really like them and I really love them. I don’t want to let go of them. But what I do need to do is release my mind from clinging to their youth, and find an understanding which allows me to embrace that the relationship I have with them will always be evolving. Whether I want it to or not!

It’s the same with most relationships we have with family, friends, pets, and even objects. We are always in a state of change. Our vibrations are moving, our energy is shifting and the exchange of energy is also reacting to it all. What leads us to suffering is the feeling that we need to hold on, to the way things are today, telling ourselves that this is how it will always be.. We find ourselves pleading with the universe PLEASE DON’T CHANGE anything on me again!. Damn cause when things are really fucking good, who wants to let that shit go?!

Letting go isn't as easy as just forgetting or ignoring. It’s a conscious deliberate movement to being in the present moment. It takes practice! Before you start trying to release all the big shit, start off small. Start with letting go of frustration when driving. Because man, road rage never leads to anywhere good! And the one person that it hurts the most is YOU. Lol. I mean that guy that cut you off isn't a mind reader. He doesn't have a microphone in your car and he certainly isn't hung up on whether or not you call him names from within a moving tin can. You can’t control the outcome, you can’t change the past, but you can release yourself from the anger and tension that builds up in your chest. Let that fucking shit go.  

Once you feel like you have mastered some of the little things you can move on to yourself. Working on letting go of the expectations that you place on yourself. Damn- well that never really goes well either does it. See a theme here? The pressure you place on yourself to be the best mom, so that your kids will be the BEST people ever…that shit will take you down. EVERYONE has their own journey, and it’s only authenticity that can help guide that. You are not going to nail it everyday, nor will anyone around you. ‘Cause life doesn't work that way. Again, let that shit go, be you. Everyday, 100% yourself and take the ride that is put in front of you. 

Recently I met with a friend who was struggling in one of her close relationships. She was bogged down by the other person's actions, arguments and behaviors. Letting that energy drain her, it began to make her emotionally and physically ill. Still when we talked she was blaming the other person and focusing on how to make THEM better. How can she change them? She didnt see how she could get better without them changing first? I let her in on a little secret. THAT’S NOT YOUR JOB! And even if it was, that's not how you are going to get better. 

I said “you need to let that go.” she said I know but HOW?! She wasn't wanting to remove herself from the relationship, she just wanted to find her voice again. Give her soul and her head a chance to focus back on herself. The only way to do that was to stop worrying about what the outcome might be. To let herself be true to her knowing TODAY. And then to get up and do that again tomorrow. Then repeat. Put the focus of your energy back on to things that are right in front of you.

Crystals and meditation can help you focus your energy in front of you. By sending comforting, relaxing and emotionally supportive vibrations. These are our favorites for Letting go…

You OK. OK?’ Bundle- Like a ride-or-die bestie, this comforting bundle is here to support you through thick and thin. Turn to this trio when you need to calm your mind and remind yourself that you are one heck of a resilient, inspirational human.  

Here's how the magic happens:

✓ Smokey Quartz shoos away painful mems to make room for more joy

✓ Tiger’s Eye works harmoniously with White Jade to create strength from fear

✓ White Jade helps you overcome challenges (and attract more unconditional love!)

Amazonite-Looking for a crystal that will heal your mind, body, and spirit? This versatile beauty is an energetic chameleon. It's brimming with protective vibrations that will meet you where you are to help you restore emotional balance, navigate conflict with ease, and maintain your health. (Electromagnetic pollution is no match for this stunner!) And we can't forget its most soul-soothing claim to fame: Like a compass for your heart, Amazonite will help you release grief. It's here to guard you, guide you . . . and remind you that love lasts forever.

Malachite-Looking for the ultimate emotional health elixir? Discover Malachite: the stone for feeling whole again. This lustrous beauty alleviates heartache and absorbs trauma – making it ahh-mazing for anyone who's got "positive self-transformation" on the agenda. Malachite is also awesome at ensuring you don't catch a case of FOMO! It will ease fear of flying and soothe a frigged-up sleep schedj . . . er, jet lag. So you can enjoy some well-deserved travel as you transform your emotional health. 

Lepidolite- Looking for an emotional anchor to steady you through life's ups and downs? Lepidolite is a natural lithium-rich crystal that brings a sense of calm to the stormiest of days. 

Its beautiful lilac hues will help lift your mood and elevate your outlook, so you can feel hopeful, steady, and perfectly centered. Let this mood-stabilizing marvel be your go-to crystal for finding balance and inner peace.

These crystals are wonderful to set intentions on. A tangible reminder that this journey you are on is meant for you. That you have support, you are not alone and you will find your way. Letting go of the expectations will provide you with freedom from suffering and the ability to love more deeply and completely. You are not the only one who struggles with this, it's a human condition, one that plagues our entire species. It's one of the biggest hurdles we experience. But we believe in you.

We got you. You got this.